What Difficult Relationships Teach Us
The day we enter this physical world, we become part of a quagmire called ‘Relationships’. Parents, siblings, family, extended family, friends so on and so forth. Some relationships bring in peace and solace to our lives but some get really difficult to handle. There are times when you wish to break off all bonds and run away from the daily torture and turmoil. Yes, you wish but you don’t do it; reason…. you realize that one difficult relationship cannot win over the other beautiful ones.
Going through difficult relationships, we strive for ‘Inner Peace’. We struggle for our own sanity. We look for inner peace which unfortunately is impossible without ‘patience’. Failure to achieve success in a relationship can break our spirit but I feel, it’s for us to see that it should not happen. No failure in life can ever be a weapon potent enough to crack our spirit. A little patience and wisdom can cease the damage. Wisdom is not what we are born with, it comes to a person after going through each and every bad experience with patience. A difficult relationship can kill the one lacking patience, but make one wise and help in spiritual growth.
If we practise patience, we stand a chance for wonderful spiritual growth. Being patient we learn to analyse every moment in any difficult situation. This analysis makes us a wise human being which in turn leads our path towards spirituality. We become a calmer person, hardly bothered about others deeds or misdeeds. It’s this spiritual enlightenment that makes us understand the goodness in all living beings, despite their failings. As Brian Weiss mentions, “For truly we are all angels temporarily hiding as humans.”
Developing patience invokes spirituality and as a spiritual person we understand the value of the virtue called ‘Forgiveness’. Spirituality makes us get over the past and learn to let go. This letting go is forgiving.
“Forgive the past. People are constantly changing and growing. Do not cling to a limited, disconnected, negative image of a person in the past. See that person now. Your relationship is always alive and changing.”
― Brian L. Weiss,
Yes, people grow, they evolve in various ways. All that is required from us is to acknowledge that change. It is important to be able to visualize the soul of the person with whom we are going through a difficult relationship. We need to acknowledge that the person’s present personality is not only because of the ongoing presence on earth but also due to unavoidable baggage of previous births.
After struggling for years ultimately I understood all this. Being a true believer in the theory of ‘Karmic Debt’, I carried on with all kinds of obstacles in the path of inner peace. I firmly believe that the difficulties I am facing today are all my Karmic debts of previous lives. I need to keep patience and let it all be over in this life so that (may be) in the next birth, I will be at peace. Tomorrow is always unfolded better when we let it proceed at its own pace.
Never be afraid of a difficult relationship. Learn to treat it as a way for your mental and spiritual growth because only struggles make you a strong human being free of all your ‘Karmic Debt’.